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Apr 07, 2018 - 05:28 AM
I have personally gone through a devastating separation (2014) from a woman of which I spent 20 + years with and had two beautiful children together.
The constant bickering and bitter battles finally took there toll (2016) which in the end, cost me my relationship with both of my children (whom I love very dearly) because they didn't understand that I was fighting for them.
My situation came at a time where I had already spent their entire childhood with them and I got tired of seeing the pain and hurt in their faces. They were already in their early teens, so to avoid further damage, I decided to give them space as they are now young adults.
For those of you who are new to this or who still have babies (12 yrs or younger), my advice to you is:
1. Do not give the other parent who is being spiteful and unreasonable, the opportunity to sabotage or destroy your relationship with your child.
2. Do not give the other parent time to buy your childs love by manipulating them with gifts and other material things. It's all a lie in an attempt to keep the child on their side.
3. Do not allow those precious years to slip away out of fear or lack of money.
When relationships become strained and it's time to separate, many parents become cynical and/or narcissistic, often times trying to manipulate, brainwash or control the child's behavior towards you in an attempt to make the child feel as though you dont love them also.
Under Pennsylvania law, the duty to pay child support and the right to maintain contact with one's child are NOT linked. This means that even if you are not seeing your child, you still have to pay child support, and that a parent can see his or her child even if he/she fails to make child support payments. It is your God given right as a responsible parent, to maintain a healthy relationship with your children. Don't ever let anyone tell you any different.
I will say that, any responsible parent (if your financial situation allows) will willingly and should pay for their childs wellbeing through the process of custody or whatever the case may be.
Know your rights as a parent, no matter where you live. I find it disgusting that any man or woman, would wrongfully and willingly disallow the other parent to see their child.
Its flat out wrong! There's no two ways around it. I've been met with threats of her calling the police just because I wanted to see my kids. Don't be intimidated by threats from the other parent.
This is a habitual and disturbing behavior that needs to be addressed.
These are nothing more than scare tactics to keep you away and maintain control over the child to keep the upper hand. DON'T fall for it!
Hire a good attorney and take action. You owe it to your child (children) to fight for them.
Good luck on your journeys.
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The constant bickering and bitter battles finally took there toll (2016) which in the end, cost me my relationship with both of my children (whom I love very dearly) because they didn't understand that I was fighting for them.
My situation came at a time where I had already spent their entire childhood with them and I got tired of seeing the pain and hurt in their faces. They were already in their early teens, so to avoid further damage, I decided to give them space as they are now young adults.
For those of you who are new to this or who still have babies (12 yrs or younger), my advice to you is:
1. Do not give the other parent who is being spiteful and unreasonable, the opportunity to sabotage or destroy your relationship with your child.
2. Do not give the other parent time to buy your childs love by manipulating them with gifts and other material things. It's all a lie in an attempt to keep the child on their side.
3. Do not allow those precious years to slip away out of fear or lack of money.
When relationships become strained and it's time to separate, many parents become cynical and/or narcissistic, often times trying to manipulate, brainwash or control the child's behavior towards you in an attempt to make the child feel as though you dont love them also.
Under Pennsylvania law, the duty to pay child support and the right to maintain contact with one's child are NOT linked. This means that even if you are not seeing your child, you still have to pay child support, and that a parent can see his or her child even if he/she fails to make child support payments. It is your God given right as a responsible parent, to maintain a healthy relationship with your children. Don't ever let anyone tell you any different.
I will say that, any responsible parent (if your financial situation allows) will willingly and should pay for their childs wellbeing through the process of custody or whatever the case may be.
Know your rights as a parent, no matter where you live. I find it disgusting that any man or woman, would wrongfully and willingly disallow the other parent to see their child.
Its flat out wrong! There's no two ways around it. I've been met with threats of her calling the police just because I wanted to see my kids. Don't be intimidated by threats from the other parent.
This is a habitual and disturbing behavior that needs to be addressed.
These are nothing more than scare tactics to keep you away and maintain control over the child to keep the upper hand. DON'T fall for it!
Hire a good attorney and take action. You owe it to your child (children) to fight for them.
Good luck on your journeys.
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