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Apr 17, 2018 - 05:22 PM
This depends on your relationship before things fell apart.
In my opinion, this is a very broad question and as such, can draw many different conclusions, but for the sake of simplicity, I'll share some advice with you through personal experiences.
Most people think people fall out of love overnight.
I've found in my years of experience, that this is not the case.
The demise of many relationships often stem from years of buildup, abuse and distrust.
This is what I've seen:
One or both persons involved are not giving enough time or putting enough effort into the relationship. The fallout between the two of you can also be linked to the following:
1. Lying
2. Gambling
3. Affairs
4. Alcoholism
5. Drug addiction
6. Verbal abuse
7. Physical abuse
Next to alcohol, drug addiction is one of the biggest downfalls in many relationships. The person using the drugs often becomes withdrawn and distant. If this is part of the problem seek help immediately. (Ever more so if its the both of you using drugs.)
The list goes on but we'll stick with these 7 key factors as to why many relationships fall part.
If you were happy before things went wrong, then there's hope of salvaging your broken trust, but both parties involved have to be willing to save the marriage and seek counseling before further damage is done.
Here are a few tips to try:
1. If the other party is willing, try talking things over.
(I'm always amazed by how some issues are extinguished simply because they both just wanted to be heard.)
2. Try spending more time alone with each other.
(Get out of the house! If you have children, make time for yourselves by going to dinner on a regular basis. Making more time for each other uninterrupted, can sometimes lead to the two of you reinventing what was lost if you still have a genuine love for each other.)
3. Display unexpected, random acts of love and sincerity.
(Send flowers to the job, spice up the sex life by trying new things. You have to be willing to try everything you can if you truly love that person and they are giving you the same energy in return.)
4. Be a listener
(Sometimes we do so much ralking, we forget that we also have to listen. Giving your significant other a voice can put out a lot of unnecessary fires.)
5. Pick your battles.
(When things get too heated, it's always best to walk away until things cool off. Trust me on this one.)
Love at First Fight: The full relationship course
In the event things don't work out:
Note: If you have children together, this makes the pain of separation that much greater in terms of a family unit and keeping it together.
At least being able to come to a compromise if things don't work out the way you thought they should in the end.
You must have the ability to put yourself and your personal feelings aside.
You must think of the children and the long-term effects it will have on them. All to often I've seen people completely destroy their families simply out of being selfish.
They begin to play tug-of-war and no one is willing to give in or compromise.
By the time many people realize what they've done, the damage has already been done. The kids start acting funny and withdrawn from activities and so on. (Don't allow this to happen.)
Not only will you have a hard time fixing yourself, you'll now have to deal with the children's random behaviors and emotions.
Good luck!
In my opinion, this is a very broad question and as such, can draw many different conclusions, but for the sake of simplicity, I'll share some advice with you through personal experiences.
Most people think people fall out of love overnight.
I've found in my years of experience, that this is not the case.
The demise of many relationships often stem from years of buildup, abuse and distrust.
This is what I've seen:
One or both persons involved are not giving enough time or putting enough effort into the relationship. The fallout between the two of you can also be linked to the following:
1. Lying
2. Gambling
3. Affairs
4. Alcoholism
5. Drug addiction
6. Verbal abuse
7. Physical abuse
Next to alcohol, drug addiction is one of the biggest downfalls in many relationships. The person using the drugs often becomes withdrawn and distant. If this is part of the problem seek help immediately. (Ever more so if its the both of you using drugs.)
The list goes on but we'll stick with these 7 key factors as to why many relationships fall part.
If you were happy before things went wrong, then there's hope of salvaging your broken trust, but both parties involved have to be willing to save the marriage and seek counseling before further damage is done.
Here are a few tips to try:
1. If the other party is willing, try talking things over.
(I'm always amazed by how some issues are extinguished simply because they both just wanted to be heard.)
2. Try spending more time alone with each other.
(Get out of the house! If you have children, make time for yourselves by going to dinner on a regular basis. Making more time for each other uninterrupted, can sometimes lead to the two of you reinventing what was lost if you still have a genuine love for each other.)
3. Display unexpected, random acts of love and sincerity.
(Send flowers to the job, spice up the sex life by trying new things. You have to be willing to try everything you can if you truly love that person and they are giving you the same energy in return.)
4. Be a listener
(Sometimes we do so much ralking, we forget that we also have to listen. Giving your significant other a voice can put out a lot of unnecessary fires.)
5. Pick your battles.
(When things get too heated, it's always best to walk away until things cool off. Trust me on this one.)
Love at First Fight: The full relationship course
In the event things don't work out:
Note: If you have children together, this makes the pain of separation that much greater in terms of a family unit and keeping it together.
At least being able to come to a compromise if things don't work out the way you thought they should in the end.
You must have the ability to put yourself and your personal feelings aside.
You must think of the children and the long-term effects it will have on them. All to often I've seen people completely destroy their families simply out of being selfish.
They begin to play tug-of-war and no one is willing to give in or compromise.
By the time many people realize what they've done, the damage has already been done. The kids start acting funny and withdrawn from activities and so on. (Don't allow this to happen.)
Not only will you have a hard time fixing yourself, you'll now have to deal with the children's random behaviors and emotions.
Good luck!
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